Month: July 2016

Honey Jars

Well, I dropped Leslie off at the airport yesterday. The night before she left we were finishing up some last minute packing. We probably shifted things in her bags five or six times to make sure that it wasn’t over the fifty pound weight limit (which is a one hundred dollar fee). It’s crazy how much stuff we accumulate as humans, and we are only taking mostly clothes. I convinced Leslie to let me take my record player and vinyls (yay! I love music). You really don’t know how much stuff you have until you pack it up to move. We didn’t even have a full house of things and I was surprised by how much stuff we had! I’ll be going through that coming up here in the next few weeks (hopefully, prayerfully).

Tuesday night was one of the worst nights we’ve experienced together. Two weeks may not seem like a long time for most people, but for us it feels like the day for me to join her in the Dominican Republic is an eternity away. I don’t know if it gets easier to be away from someone you love the longer you’ve been married, and I’m sure it is different for everyone. Maybe some couples who have been married a while could weigh in on that for us. We were cuddling after finishing packing and Leslie asked me to sing Honey Jars to her, a song by Bryan John Appleby. It’s about an old man who lost his wife and is dealing with being alone. He wrote it after he and his girlfriend had broken up and she moved to California. He said that his ability as a lyricist comes from being able to dramatize a situation. The most compelling lines in the song are these: “And now your honey jars are frozen. And in the window, your books have browned. And there’s too much room inside our bed, I think I’ll join you in the ground.” Call it dramatic, call it what you will, but being alone without your husband or wife is neither fun nor a walk in the park. We tasted that for the first time since being married last November. I will add a link to Honey Jars at the end of this post. It is a truly beautiful song.

I’m really thankful for how technology has advanced. It is a huge blessing to be able to see my wife’s face over FaceTime. I stayed up until three in the morning to make sure that she made it safe and sound to her mother’s house. I was getting worried as the time she was supposed to arrive drew closer and closer, and I hadn’t heard anything from her yet. I ended up messaging her brother, Jose, over WhatsApp to see if he had heard anything yet. I was just worrying myself for no reason. She made it home safely and we were able to FaceTime before going to bed.

As of now, we are just waiting for my visa to come back so that I can move and establish residency in the DR. We sent in the application with all the required documents on Monday and the process takes anywhere from 2-3 weeks. We are praying that it comes back fairly quickly. I just got a call from the Dominican consulate in California asking for a copy of Leslie’s passport. It is encouraging knowing that they have already started working on it.

Prayer Requests:
-That my visa comes back quickly
-That Leslie is able to take care of finding a car for us
-That time goes by quickly
-That we wouldn’t get too stressed over all the things we still have to do

Thank you to everyone who has been praying for us! We really appreciate it!

In God’s grip,
Alex